I almost forgot to mention your wonderful, loving, and equally successful partner.

Being Loved Is Excellent
Loving Another Is Excellent, Also

Loving Others For Merely Being
Is Wisdom!

–Firefishe

I have that book! It’s a great read, and sheds much light on what certain elements of the Christian Bible say on the matter, and, more importantly, what scholars think!

It’s too bad about your parents. They are truly missing out on a wonderful time with their beautifuly vivid, lively, and successful daughter, as well as the grandchildren.

I wish you well, and offer hope that, in time, they might come around. However, they will have to come to that realization, themselves. If not, it’s their loss, not yours.

But you already knew that

Sincerely,
Firefishe

“Gads! What melodrama!”

I can’t believe that so many people overemotionalize such an element of a person being attracted to a person of the same gender.

RELIGIOUS WHAT?

What’s the frickin’ deal? Leviticus? Gads! It’s a *six-thousand year old text,* people! Forget it, already, and those who preach it as being relevant for modern people. It’s nonsense! That is, to basically castigate an entire population of people who happen to be attracted to people of the same gender, using that book, is ridiculous!

It has *absolutely no bearing* on modern day life! We have matured, grown, and the majority of religious views–specifically the ‘Abrahmic’ faiths–do not allow for any type of growth when all they do is cast doubt in the minds of the adherents. Cast doubt by referring to some ancient lines in an ancient book that is not relevant to the modern day.

Read it for critical historical review if you want, but don’t live your life by it. Sheesh!

FORCING AN EMOTIONAL STATE OF ‘NEEDINESS FOR CHILDREN’ IS SELFISH!

One theme I also see in a majority of posts above is selfishness.

Homosexual people may or may not have children, in the traditional, hetereosexual manner. Adoption and in-vitro fertilization are there, of course–or perhaps a willing male partner for a lesbian woman who just wants a ‘sperm doner’ without all the clinical discomfort. Heterosexual couples have the usual manner of procreation available, of course, but even hetero couples have fertility problems, so they also adopt or do in-vitro, or even resort to legal surrogates, which, in some cases, can be dicey.

Also, modern technologies are only going to continue to allow choices for non-traditional couples; and in the future, legally-bonded, polyamorous groups of people will also have technological choices–although for this group, the chances of the usual manner of procreation is a bit more available, especially for an even male/female mix

LEGAL AND ETHICAL CONSIDERATIONS

Folks! This type of thing isn’t going to go away anytime soon! Canada passed homosexual marriage legalization a while ago. Many U.S. States are passing laws to solemnize and protect the legal rights of homosexual partners and their children, if any. That’s if they decide to even have children. Not all of us are ‘kid people,’ folks! Some of us prefer to be ‘child free.’

I know my wife is sick to death of people at her workplace asking her when she and I are going to have children. The fact is, we’re proably never going to have kids. We don’t really want to be burdened by the responsibility. She’s 30 and I’m 46, and we both have enough on our plates without throwing offspring-to-raise in our midst at this time.

We drive the rest of her primarily Catholic family crazy at times. That, however, is not our problem. It’s the problem of people who have chosen to allow a religion to dominate their lives, and allow themselves to be subordinated by it to the point of becoming overly emotional when something outside their sphere of experience presents itself. Like my wife’s and my decision to not have children, or at least to not have the aspect of having children play an all-encompassing role in our lives.

We’re married. We happy. We don’t want kids! End of story.

Some people are married. Some people remain single for the rest of their lives. Some folks are heterosexual. Some folks are homosexual. Some folks are bi-sexual, myself among them. Also, even thought I’m bi, I’m also devoted to my wife, and am quite monogamous. That is a matter of honor and the promise I made to my wife when we exchanged our vows.

I don’t cheat. Neither does my wife. We’re open about our sexual needs, but don’t push the other for favors. Spontaneity exists, and is frequent. We’ve been married now for over six years. We’ve had the ups and downs of married couples through the ages. The fact is, if we were a homosexual couple, we’d still probably have had the same experiences, due to our *personalities!*

Our gender preferences would’ve made no difference! Nor does it make a difference in the lives of anyone else who is homosexual. A person’s personality is a person’s personality. How well one deals with life is inherent in one’s ability to separate from over-emotionalizing things, and dealing with them concisely, openly, and directly, and not crying over things that have been projected by one’s psyche, by one’s own mind, regarding another, separate personality–daughter, son, etc.

The folks who are homosexual are not to blame for those of you who have ‘had all those plans’ for your offspring, but they didn’t ‘come true,’ and now you want to be melodramatic, feel sorry for yourselves, and beat yourselves up. What’s even more disturbing is when the homosexual offspring confess to feeling the same way–primarily because ‘that’s the way they were raised.’

The latter element is the fault of both! First, the parents for not being open minded enough to have some element of understanding of the human psycho-emotional-spiritual state, and for the offspring for not knowing when they were being fed a bunch of b/s!

As we mature, it is intended that we grow out of the need to be bottle-fed and find our own way through the mazes of life. When we find Love–be it from one of the opposite gender, one of the same gender, or a group of like-minded, open individuals who wish to go through life together, it is not horrible. Instead, it is WONDERFUL!

Wonderful when Love manifests itself. Killing off Love will only create more pain and suffering in the world.

If you would have Love and Understanding, yourself, become Loving and Understanding and accepting of others, don’t interfere in their free will–so long as they are not abusing themselves and/or others–and encourage them in that Love.

Doing the above will bring that much more Love back to you, and you will end up a much more positive individual for the doing of it.

I know this post has been a bit ranty, and that the other people here have experienced a lot of what they consider to be emotional pain. I do empathize, but can not sympathize. Walking in another’s shoes is one thing, accepting their emotional state is another, and there are some emotional states that need to be removed from our collective consciousness as a race.

It is my opinion that some of the people who have posted here need to stop in their tracks, re-evaluate their own lives, take a long, hard look at their own emotional states, re-evauluate those, and see if, just perhaps, something is amiss in their own mind/body/spirit vehicle.

If so, then perhaps it’s time to look for a new ‘religion.’

Thank you for your time.
–Firefishe

Just think….what is more important? Your child’s happiness, having them in your life? Or that you cant accept it and you worry too much about what others think about YOU.

To those who are sickened etc….GROW UP. The world is changing and I for one believe God knows and accepts this.