Then there is the grandchildren issue at the end of the day there is a drive for you to gain your own immortality through your descendants why else would people spend their life savings on fertility treatments .

On the surface we were in her own words ” cool ” about it our words to her were rational and supportive we want her to be happy. It helped that her partner is a very kind and indeed delightful intelligent individual.

In private between my wife and I there was some grieving and heartbreak for the perceived “loss”.I think my daughter a sensitive child picked up on this even if it is not expressed.

Then this week we discovered that our eldest daughter had also embarked on a relationship with a woman . This was a bombshell as she had had a number of relationships (including a 4 year long one) with men. Despite our calm reaction to our other daughter this has hit us very hard. If I was to rationalise this then I would say it is the shock element and also at the end of the day this daughter was perhaps now emotionally our one chance for grandchildren.

I would say that it will take hard work to get through this and we cannot be hypocritical by treating them differently disowning them is never an option but I think parents loss and pain in these situations is not to be belittled.Certainly we have lost sleep over this and again both our daughters will pick up on this.

Is ones sexuality a choice. Lets say this like most human activities there is a bell curve here at one end would be the few people who would not be attracted to the same sex no matter what and at the other would be the true homesexual and lesbian person who would never consider a heterosexual relationship . Most people lie somewhere along that curve and to that extent are bi-sexual. Certain social situations will move you further to one end or another for instance in prison straight men will have homosexual relations but will insist they are straight upon release. So you can be born with certain tendencies but there is a choice based upon your social surroundings/ influences for most people.Both my daughters have had relationship with men so the position is complex lets say.

THe religous people writing on here may suffer if their particular brand of religousness condemns homosexuality as this will be an attck on their core beliefs . All that can be said is most religions and certainly Christianity has forgiveness as a prime motivation .

At the end of the day we love our daughters and they are adults they may not now have the lives we dreamed of for them this is a loss to us we have to grieve for this but we expect to come through it.

Can someone please help me, how am I supposed to wrap my brain around this? How will I get what I saw out of my head?
I am a single parent, her father has never been in her life…she is my only child.
I feel like the world just crashed and burned. She talks about ‘cute guys at school’…have overheard conversations with her gal friends about how she would love to ‘do him’….and then I witness THAT???
Now what do I do???

Where is the compassion for the parents of gays?

WHY are we being forced to be tolerant and accepting?

WHY are we condemned as unloving parents just because we refuse to accept the fact that a son or daughter is gay? When did this become such a one-way street?

As the parents of a self-declared “bi”, we are saddened and disappointed. Why should WE compromise our beliefs, throw away the hopes and dreams we had for her, just to be politically correct and approved of by society and other parents who DO accept the lifestyle?

I have read many posts on this site from parents, especially mothers, who just cannot, will not accept the lifestyle. It is clearly tearing them down emotionally, and it’s not right that these parents have to deal with shock and disappointment as is their right, AND THEN be insulted and persecuted by others who don’t agree.

Every parent has the right to react to their own sadness.