But I’m Not Butch?
I am a 26 year old lesbian. I have been out to myself since college, and have been out to my parents for about two years. I was always a tomboy and loved sports – but you would never guess by looking at me that I’m gay. I have many gay friends – some with short hair who are more masculine- but I have a lot of beautiful gay friends who nobody would guess. I think that there are a lot of feminine women are don’t think they can be gay, because they aren’t butch or masculine. My girlfriend of two years loves purses and jewelry, and doesn’t know anything about sports. I think that is why males who are gay in athletics have such a struggle.
I hope all types of men and women can come out and be who they are – regardless of what they look like. Being gay is not something to be ashamed of. I’m proud to be a role model.
I know what you mean!
I’m 16 years old, and I just came out to my parents about…oh, I guess four months ago. So far, so good.
What’s frustrating for me is that I look, sound, and act straight. Nothing is going to change that. Even my closest friends were surprised when I told them that I was lesbian, because I physically don’t fit in with ANY of the lesbian stereotypes. I’m much too feminine to ever be considered butch, yet I don’t think I’m feminine enough to fall under the category of “lipstick lesbian”.
It occured to me for the first time, after looking good and hard at myself, that sometimes being gay doesn’t have to show. The only sure thing about somebody who identifies as gay is that they prefer their own gender. It really has nothing to do with how they act or look or speak or whatever.
I’m so glad that somebody else (and hopefully many others) have reached the same conclusion as me!
My daughter is 12 years old and an artist. Can she really know that she is gay at 12? I know that she has a lot of contacts on the art site that she draws on that say that being gay is cool. Isn’t 12 too young to know?
thank you!! i am 14 years old and would never attempt sports to save my life. I love being a girl and being feminine.But i am a lesbian and like other girls. And no, 12 is not too young to know. I did not come out to myself until about six mos ago, however i had my first experience with girls at 12. 12 is young but not too young. I am still a closet case and it is mind sets like that that keep me in the closet.