Accepting Mum Of A Lesbian Daughter
Hi Debbie,
My name is Denise and I just found out that my 22 year old daughter (Cyndee) is a lesbian. I flat out asked her to get the awkwardness over and done with. In my heart I know I have always known. My daughter is a wonderful woman. She is going to college on a soccer scholarship. She graduates next year with 2 bachelor degrees. She has always been a honest wonderful person. I have always been so proud of her. I will always be proud of her for being true to herself and happiness.
Her partner (Molly) is also a wonderful person. I really am looking forward to having her in our life. I told my daughter that if her brother brought her home I would say “excellent choice” so why wouldn’t I say that because she brought her home. I am so looking forward to sharing this part of my daughters life. I am so happy that she has found someone that she can share her life with and be happy.
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I have always been a very open minded person and have all kinds of friends. I enjoy colorful, independent, and true to their self people.
There is not a bone in my body that is upset about her choice.
In fact two weeks ago when she and Molly were over for a visit and I walked them out to say goodbye. I walked back in the house and said “what a nice looking couple” and I shook my head and said “did you really just say that”?
That’s when it hit me and I laughed out loud. Then I said should I worry about saving my wedding dress? When I told my daughter these thoughts that went through my mind we laughed together and she told me not to rule the dress out. I told her she’s right if she don’t wear it maybe Molly will. All that matters to me is her happiness.
My question is, Is it normal to be this happy? LOL!
My girl friend Debi, who is also a lesbian said I was a great mom, stop thinking and enjoy my daughter life.
There are other family members that will not be happy.
The protective mother in me wants to protect her & Molly.
How do I handle these situations?
I can have a sharp tongue , but I would like to handle it so everyone involved does not feel uncomfortable.
I look forward to hearing from you and let me say thank you now for your answers.
Thanks Again,
Denise Millang
Hello. (: My Name is maddison, im doing a school project with my friend Aleisha on gay rights, and im ment to be interveiwing some one that is gay themself. but i dont know anyone, i was wondering if you would be able to help us. We are both bi-sexual and support gays %100.
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Thankyou.
Maddison&Aleisha.
What a fantastic mom! I wish my parents had been that kind, loving, and understanding to me when I came out. It’s obvious that you value your daughter and your relationship with her very much. I wish my mom had been more like you.
Unfortunately, my parents were extremely religious (my mom especially), and she just couldn’t accept it. I tried talking to her at length and also sent her emails, books, articles, and videos over several years, but it was of no use. She stuck to her beliefs that I chose this “sin” and turned my back on our faith. Anyways, she died of cancer last year and I’m still coming to terms with the fact that we’ll never really have that chance to continue the conversation. For some people, rigid religion causes rigid thinking that can ruin relationships with the people you love most.
My advice is to always stand up for your daughter. It will make you a stronger person (but you already seem very strong!). In some places it might be harder to do that — you’ll be faced with vociferous opposition or personal attacks — but if you do verbally spar with these people, I believe that they will eventually learn that love really does conquer all. It might help them accept their own gay daughter/son or at least open the way to compassion.
You never know.
I’m glad I read your story today. It brightened my day
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