Comments on: A Gay Poem To Make You Think http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think Help For Parents Of Gay Children Thu, 28 Aug 2008 17:11:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: sister http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-643 sister Tue, 06 May 2008 00:39:23 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-643 I just accidentally found a picture of my brother with his boyfriend (they were holding hands). I am so shocked. He is 25 and I see that he is out of the closet with all his friends!! I can't beleive that he would be going around town with his boyfriend without telling his family first. I am so shocked and I can't imagine what my very old-fashioned parents will think. At this point, they will probably find out through someone else and I can't even begin to imagine how they will react. I am so worried. I just accidentally found a picture of my brother with his boyfriend (they were holding hands). I am so shocked. He is 25 and I see that he is out of the closet with all his friends!! I can’t beleive that he would be going around town with his boyfriend without telling his family first. I am so shocked and I can’t imagine what my very old-fashioned parents will think. At this point, they will probably find out through someone else and I can’t even begin to imagine how they will react. I am so worried.

]]> By: Tabetha http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-517 Tabetha Mon, 12 Nov 2007 21:25:08 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-517 I am not a mother, but I am part of a support group at my high school. I am 16 and straight, but I belong to my school's Gay Straight Alliance. I have to say that all of your children (people who have left comments) and so lucky to have parents like you. That is one of the biggest and most talked about problems during our meetings, and it really takes a heavy toll on a teenager that feels they cannot tell their parents, or already have and are being shunned for it. If anyone ever wants to talk, my email is tmclark8@myway.com I am not a mother, but I am part of a support group at my high school. I am 16 and straight, but I belong to my school’s Gay Straight Alliance. I have to say that all of your children (people who have left comments) and so lucky to have parents like you. That is one of the biggest and most talked about problems during our meetings, and it really takes a heavy toll on a teenager that feels they cannot tell their parents, or already have and are being shunned for it. If anyone ever wants to talk, my email is tmclark8@myway.com

]]> By: Wahoo http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-413 Wahoo Sat, 06 Oct 2007 05:26:57 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-413 Thank you for sharing! Thank you for sharing!

]]> By: mom http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-333 mom Fri, 31 Aug 2007 04:45:54 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-333 anonymous, Sounds like you and I may be in similar situations. Have you found someone to talk to about your child's sexuality? How did you find out? How old is he/she? Is he/she open to talking with you about this? Are you single/married, have other children/family? I haven't seen my son since I found out he may be gay. It is difficult to get ahold of him and nearly impossible to talk with him alone - his wife is usually around. The only person I have been able to discuss this with is my husband (not my son's father) who, thankfully, is extremely supportive. You mentioned above that you were feeling alone and scared - I am struggling with all this too. I get this pit in my stomach when I think about all the implications of the whole situation, all of which would talke pages to even touch on. I want to talk to someone but yet I don't want to tell anyone local until I hear the facts straight from my son and not someone else. How have you coped so far? I almost don't know where to start. I have searched the Internet for information, which has helped some. I guess I really want to have some alone time with my son and get some answers, if he is willing to talk about it. I'm gathering from other people who have posted, though, that I'll probably end up with even more questions. Looking forward to hearing from anyone - mom anonymous,

Sounds like you and I may be in similar situations. Have you found someone to talk to about your child’s sexuality? How did you find out? How old is he/she? Is he/she open to talking with you about this? Are you single/married, have other children/family?

I haven’t seen my son since I found out he may be gay. It is difficult to get ahold of him and nearly impossible to talk with him alone - his wife is usually around. The only person I have been able to discuss this with is my husband (not my son’s father) who, thankfully, is extremely supportive.

You mentioned above that you were feeling alone and scared - I am struggling with all this too. I get this pit in my stomach when I think about all the implications of the whole situation, all of which would talke pages to even touch on. I want to talk to someone but yet I don’t want to tell anyone local until I hear the facts straight from my son and not someone else.

How have you coped so far? I almost don’t know where to start. I have searched the Internet for information, which has helped some. I guess I really want to have some alone time with my son and get some answers, if he is willing to talk about it. I’m gathering from other people who have posted, though, that I’ll probably end up with even more questions.

Looking forward to hearing from anyone -
mom

]]> By: anonymous http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-294 anonymous Thu, 23 Aug 2007 15:11:14 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-294 I am struggling to deal with with my child's sexuality. It can be so hard, especially with all the prejudice out there.To all those parents out there, I just want to say it is so good to know I'm not alone and that with the support of others we can all be strong and supportive for our beautiful and precious children. I am struggling to deal with with my child’s sexuality. It can be so hard, especially with all the prejudice out there.To all those parents out there, I just want to say it is so good to know I’m not alone and that with the support of others we can all be strong and supportive for our beautiful and precious children.

]]> By: mom http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-280 mom Tue, 21 Aug 2007 03:30:29 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-280 Thanks Anonymous - My nature is to lay the cards on out the table, but I didn't want to put pressure on my son in case he is not ready to or comfortable about answering the question. I guess I will be able to tell when the timing is right. I appreciate your immediate response. mom Thanks Anonymous -
My nature is to lay the cards on out the table, but I didn’t want to put pressure on my son in case he is not ready to or comfortable about answering the question. I guess I will be able to tell when the timing is right.
I appreciate your immediate response.
mom

]]> By: Anonymous http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-275 Anonymous Mon, 20 Aug 2007 06:04:42 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-275 Ask him if he is gay! Tell him you will not judge him and that you will stand by him and you love him. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Ask him if he is gay! Tell him you will not judge him and that you will stand by him and you love him. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

]]> By: mom http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-274 mom Mon, 20 Aug 2007 03:17:10 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-274 I was just told by one of my son's closest friends that my 35 yr old son is possibly gay or at least bisexual. This came as a huge shock - it also answers a lot of questions that have never seemed to have explanations. I will love him no matter what his sexual preference is, but I don't think he knows that. My son was raised under a legalistic church doctrine that was not tolerant. His father was very judgmental and critical. My son is angry, depressed and is an alcoholic; he nearly died of alcohol poisoning recently. Now I understand so many things that didn't make sense two days ago. PLEASE, I NEED ADVICE. I need feedback on how to handle this information. I think my son has tried to get the courage to tell me himself several times but changed his mind because he didn't think I would be a safe person - and at the time I may not have been. I am hurting so badly to think of the pain he has been dealing with for years. What should I do? I know, most importantly, I need to assure him I will always love him no matter what. Should I ask him if he is gay? . . should I bring up the subject and give him the chance to tell me? . . should I say nothing and just begin to work on our relationship and see what happens? . . or . . what? If anyone would be willing to offer suggestions, I would appreciate it so much. mom I was just told by one of my son’s closest friends that my 35 yr old son is possibly gay or at least bisexual. This came as a huge shock - it also answers a lot of questions that have never seemed to have explanations. I will love him no matter what his sexual preference is, but I don’t think he knows that. My son was raised under a legalistic church doctrine that was not tolerant. His father was very judgmental and critical. My son is angry, depressed and is an alcoholic; he nearly died of alcohol poisoning recently. Now I understand so many things that didn’t make sense two days ago.
PLEASE, I NEED ADVICE. I need feedback on how to handle this information. I think my son has tried to get the courage to tell me himself several times but changed his mind because he didn’t think I would be a safe person - and at the time I may not have been. I am hurting so badly to think of the pain he has been dealing with for years.
What should I do? I know, most importantly, I need to assure him I will always love him no matter what. Should I ask him if he is gay? . . should I bring up the subject and give him the chance to tell me? . . should I say nothing and just begin to work on our relationship and see what happens? . . or . . what? If anyone would be willing to offer suggestions, I would appreciate it so much.
mom

]]> By: anonymous http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-239 anonymous Tue, 14 Aug 2007 01:28:28 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-239 Cathy, I am in a similar situation in that I recently discovered that a family member was gay.Need someone to talk to about it. Feeling alone and scared Cathy,
I am in a similar situation in that I recently discovered that a family member was gay.Need someone to talk to about it. Feeling alone and scared

]]> By: gideon http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-103 gideon Mon, 09 Jul 2007 20:50:24 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-103 <p>as a gay young man myself,im still very much in termoil with my own sexuality...i had one gay relationship,i loved the fisical aspect of the relationship,but the guy is not 4 me..and i lack the support to help me through this.my parents wont understand and the friends that know,doesn't care..i had a friend asking me whats the big deal in me not telling my parents?perhaps its the fact that i still struggle with coming 2 terms with my sexuality?</p> as a gay young man myself,im still very much in termoil with my own sexuality…i had one gay relationship,i loved the fisical aspect of the relationship,but the guy is not 4 me..and i lack the support to help me through this.my parents wont understand and the friends that know,doesn’t care..i had a friend asking me whats the big deal in me not telling my parents?perhaps its the fact that i still struggle with coming 2 terms with my sexuality?

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