Comments on: A Gay Poem To Make You Think http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think Help For Parents Of Gay Children Sat, 17 Jul 2010 12:22:22 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jan http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-7414 Jan Mon, 05 Jul 2010 10:17:07 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-7414 I fell apart when my son told me he was gay 9 yrs ago. Mainly because I felt I was to blame, but also, once I had time to think, I was afraid for him, that he would be persicuted. He is so happy and successful now that terrible burden has been lifted. No-one can ever be sure how they will react but you could be getting it so wrong. Give parents the chance to work this information through and they will realise that you are still the same person you were the second before you told them. Love hugs and support. I fell apart when my son told me he was gay 9 yrs ago. Mainly because I felt I was to blame, but also, once I had time to think, I was afraid for him, that he would be persicuted. He is so happy and successful now that terrible burden has been lifted. No-one can ever be sure how they will react but you could be getting it so wrong. Give parents the chance to work this information through and they will realise that you are still the same person you were the second before you told them. Love hugs and support.

]]> By: stretch http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-7247 stretch Mon, 28 Jun 2010 19:05:58 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-7247 i am a 14 yr. old gay boy who has recently come to terms with my sexuality. Most gay people come to terms with their sexuality a little later in life but i have always had a hunch of my sexuality or indifference. My parents actaully had a hunch to and o they came up with this crazy idea that if they made me do more "manly things" then i would change my ways and start acting like a heterosexual. But little did they know that you cant change your sexuality, only discover wat u r from birth. I came out to 3 of my close friends about me being gay and they were totally ok with it. more than i expected but it took alot out of me just to strike up the courage to tell them. but i never came out to parents for fear of their reacions. it seems like everyday we revolve our conversations around how gay people r disgraces and are all going to hell. This makes me act more and more like a heterosexual for fear of being disowned and frowned upon. I think about my life every day and i wonder sometimes if its truly worth wat i am going to go through?? i am lonely and sad and miserable ecause i cant do anything with my sexuality status either. so i sit here miserable waiting on a miracle. i am a 14 yr. old gay boy who has recently come to terms with my sexuality. Most gay people come to terms with their sexuality a little later in life but i have always had a hunch of my sexuality or indifference. My parents actaully had a hunch to and o they came up with this crazy idea that if they made me do more “manly things” then i would change my ways and start acting like a heterosexual. But little did they know that you cant change your sexuality, only discover wat u r from birth. I came out to 3 of my close friends about me being gay and they were totally ok with it. more than i expected but it took alot out of me just to strike up the courage to tell them. but i never came out to parents for fear of their reacions. it seems like everyday we revolve our conversations around how gay people r disgraces and are all going to hell. This makes me act more and more like a heterosexual for fear of being disowned and frowned upon. I think about my life every day and i wonder sometimes if its truly worth wat i am going to go through?? i am lonely and sad and miserable ecause i cant do anything with my sexuality status either. so i sit here miserable waiting on a miracle.

]]> By: thomas http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-6967 thomas Thu, 17 Jun 2010 04:01:51 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-6967 my sister told my dad and stepmom she was bisexual that didnt go to well by any means it put my family into termoil, i told my dad and he threatened to send me with my drug addicted mom, so i lied to him and said i thought i was, but i feel horrible for lying to him. if he finds out my life goes down hill i loose EVERYTHING i need help please it keeps me awake so many nights,,,,i just want to be accepted. im 16 if anyone has anything to say email me at turtle_tennessee@yahoo.com thanx bunchez xoxo my sister told my dad and stepmom she was bisexual that didnt go to well by any means it put my family into termoil, i told my dad and he threatened to send me with my drug addicted mom, so i lied to him and said i thought i was, but i feel horrible for lying to him. if he finds out my life goes down hill i loose EVERYTHING i need help please it keeps me awake so many nights,,,,i just want to be accepted. im 16 if anyone has anything to say email me at turtle_tennessee@yahoo.com thanx bunchez xoxo

]]> By: RPD http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-6608 RPD Tue, 01 Jun 2010 19:04:49 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-6608 I have been trying to find the original source of this poem. Any help? What source did the poster find this at? Any reply would be greatly appreciated. ~Warm regards, Respond2be: RPD I have been trying to find the original source of this poem. Any help? What source did the poster find this at?

Any reply would be greatly appreciated.

~Warm regards,
Respond2be:
RPD

]]> By: Ben http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-5248 Ben Tue, 16 Feb 2010 13:19:03 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-5248 Hey all, I am a 16 year old gay male that lives in England. I am still in the closet to all of my friends and family because I am scared of what they will think. I know my friends wouldn't care because I have a gay mate that came out a few months ago and everyone was fine about it. His parents however, took it the wrong way and sent him off to a counciller (Can't spell it sorry). They think he's 'confused'. He is not confused; Straight people know what they want so surely if he was straight he wouldn't be having gay feelings for no reason! If any parents read this and have a gay son/daughter that has recently 'come out', please please please understand how much harder it was for them to tell you; and let them know that you understand and you love them! Every day I think about coming out but the one thing stopping me is the thought my parents will take it the wrong way. I would tell my friends but I don't want it leaking out. Good luck to all parents and sons/daughters about coming out and taking the news x Hey all, I am a 16 year old gay male that lives in England. I am still in the closet to all of my friends and family because I am scared of what they will think. I know my friends wouldn’t care because I have a gay mate that came out a few months ago and everyone was fine about it. His parents however, took it the wrong way and sent him off to a counciller (Can’t spell it sorry). They think he’s ‘confused’. He is not confused; Straight people know what they want so surely if he was straight he wouldn’t be having gay feelings for no reason! If any parents read this and have a gay son/daughter that has recently ‘come out’, please please please understand how much harder it was for them to tell you; and let them know that you understand and you love them! Every day I think about coming out but the one thing stopping me is the thought my parents will take it the wrong way. I would tell my friends but I don’t want it leaking out. Good luck to all parents and sons/daughters about coming out and taking the news x

]]> By: Wayne http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-4825 Wayne Sun, 10 Jan 2010 21:42:30 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-4825 To all parents of gay kids....first the fact that your child choose to come out to you is commendable, both that they have enough trust in your love and that you are able to accept them for who they are. We all must remember that this is not the path that any gay person chooses....who would want to willingly choose a life of put downs, rejection and potential violence. I hope that parents of gay children would not treat a potential relationship any different than if that child was hetro. Parents have to realize that "relationships" will happen straight or gay and all that you can do is to give the necessary support and information as a young child to prepare them for this fact of life. The most difficult thing for "gay" youth is that they are not able to be as open about their relationships and also it not as easy to find suitable partners. Most gay "dating" web sites are filled with "married", so called bi men, who are looking for sex outside their relationship. All online web site will not accept youth under 18, hence the lie about their age and end up seeing someone a lot older and yes sometimes get taken advantage of. For young gay youth there are not a lot of options. Parents should encourage their "out" gay children to seek out support from the appropriate local gay youth groups. A web search will find that group that operates in your city/area. Today the internet has made life much easier for gay youth, but many still struggle with trying to fit into the mold that society expects for fear of what family and friends will say or think. A bit about myself...I am an older gay man who, for many reasons, didn't come out until late in my life. I wish that I had the access to the information on the internet that is available today. My motto in life has been and is..."I am me, and I'm OK" To all parents of gay kids….first the fact that your child choose to come out to you is commendable, both that they have enough trust in your love and that you are able to accept them for who they are. We all must remember that this is not the path that any gay person chooses….who would want to willingly choose a life of put downs, rejection and potential violence.
I hope that parents of gay children would not treat a potential relationship any different than if that child was hetro. Parents have to realize that “relationships” will happen straight or gay and all that you can do is to give the necessary support and information as a young child to prepare them for this fact of life. The most difficult thing for “gay” youth is that they are not able to be as open about their relationships and also it not as easy to find suitable partners. Most gay “dating” web sites are filled with “married”, so called bi men, who are looking for sex outside their relationship. All online web site will not accept youth under 18, hence the lie about their age and end up seeing someone a lot older and yes sometimes get taken advantage of. For young gay youth there are not a lot of options. Parents should encourage their “out” gay children to seek out support from the appropriate local gay youth groups. A web search will find that group that operates in your city/area.
Today the internet has made life much easier for gay youth, but many still struggle with trying to fit into the mold that society expects for fear of what family and friends will say or think.
A bit about myself…I am an older gay man who, for many reasons, didn’t come out until late in my life. I wish that I had the access to the information on the internet that is available today.
My motto in life has been and is…”I am me, and I’m OK”

]]> By: Quaylha http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-4307 Quaylha Thu, 12 Nov 2009 07:24:56 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-4307 my daughter got into a lesbien relationship a little over a year ago, and she and my grandkids moved over the summer to tinian with her partner(nowex) 2weeks ago there had been a issue where her ex partner was being controling and emotional abusing. well the other nite my daughter called to let me know what was going on. her ex partner kicked her out of the house called the police and threatned to kill her and told her that if she killed her no one would find her body. my daughter and grandkids are in a safe place for right now and eventually they will return home... we had told my daughter a number of times it was not a good idea and we also told her to get a round trip ticket but she didnt. she told my sister she now realizes her mistake my daughter got into a lesbien relationship a little over a year ago, and she and my grandkids moved over the summer to tinian with her partner(nowex)
2weeks ago there had been a issue where her ex partner was being controling and emotional abusing. well the other nite my daughter called to let me know what was going on. her ex partner kicked her out of the house called the police and threatned to kill her and told her that if she killed her no one would find her body. my daughter and grandkids are in a safe place for right now and eventually they will return home…
we had told my daughter a number of times it was not a good idea and we also told her to get a round trip ticket but she didnt. she told my sister she now realizes her mistake

]]> By: John http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-3566 John Sat, 04 Jul 2009 01:38:52 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-3566 I'm going through so many mixed feelings right now. I have come to terms that I am gay and I'm fine with being gay. I'm scared to come out to my parents though. Somedays I feel confident and feel like the time is soon and I will tell them. Other days I just feel like giving up and I will never come out. I don't have mnay friends I could tell. I've been keeping this a secret for so long and I just want to have a normal life..I want to be able to go out and find someone special without having to worry. I’m going through so many mixed feelings right now. I have come to terms that I am gay and I’m fine with being gay. I’m scared to come out to my parents though. Somedays I feel confident and feel like the time is soon and I will tell them. Other days I just feel like giving up and I will never come out. I don’t have mnay friends I could tell. I’ve been keeping this a secret for so long and I just want to have a normal life..I want to be able to go out and find someone special without having to worry.

]]> By: Graham http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-3555 Graham Tue, 30 Jun 2009 11:05:45 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-3555 My dad just last week found out im gay , im 34 and my mum knew about six months ago and kept it away from my dad as he would of really blown his top and went all mental, but it all worked totally opposite, my dad now wants to speak to me and has told my sister that he has accepted that im gay and will support me together with my mum, and this has now given me a reason to live and when i was told by my sister that my folks are ok with my sexuality such a great burden came off my chest, as recently i started drinking more often as had no reason to live a normal decent life, i just wanted to live life on the edge...To all those out there, that have not come out, i would say come out when u feel it in your heart you ready. My life feels just so much better , im happy in my heart... My dad just last week found out im gay , im 34 and my mum knew about six months ago and kept it away from my dad as he would of really blown his top and went all mental, but it all worked totally opposite, my dad now wants to speak to me and has told my sister that he has accepted that im gay and will support me together with my mum, and this has now given me a reason to live and when i was told by my sister that my folks are ok with my sexuality such a great burden came off my chest, as recently i started drinking more often as had no reason to live a normal decent life, i just wanted to live life on the edge…To all those out there, that have not come out, i would say come out when u feel it in your heart you ready. My life feels just so much better , im happy in my heart…

]]> By: Tim http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think/comment-page-1#comment-3413 Tim Thu, 21 May 2009 17:51:27 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-poem-to-make-you-think#comment-3413 Marcus, im not a parent. im only 20. Dont think like that. there is always a point to living. someday you will make someone very happy. I tired to kill my self before. I lost everyone, i felt like the world hated me. But i stopped. I realised that i would hurt my family by leaving. dont let the things your family and friends say get to you. They are doing it because they dont understand. maybe you can help them understand. Marcus, im not a parent. im only 20. Dont think like that. there is always a point to living. someday you will make someone very happy. I tired to kill my self before. I lost everyone, i felt like the world hated me. But i stopped. I realised that i would hurt my family by leaving. dont let the things your family and friends say get to you. They are doing it because they dont understand. maybe you can help them understand.

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