Comments on: A Gay Boys Advice To Parents

By: Dominic lopez

Dominic lopez — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 19:03:16 +0000

So my name is Dominic as you would all kow already. But for you parents who are very none accepting let me tell you this even before you knew your kid was gay you didnt probably give a damn! And now that you’ve found out your being very indulgent. Im 15 years old and I learned the hard way and trust me dont be such an ass I turned into a total wreck my father hated me for me, I used to like painting my nails but unfortunetly everyone in my entire family told me I was a fag! And I was only 5 and I knew exactly what it meant.so I started acting like a boy, grew up painfully with a huge secret and I couldnt tell anyone. Finally I just came out slowly and no one literally cared! and my best friend told me he didnt care because he and I knew no matter what ,I still am the same person I was before. For you gay teens like me be.true to who you are dont be fragile but hard and beautiful like diamond. I am happy now but still be careful to who you tell its best not to tell your parents first because if you do, trust me it wont turn out pretty. Train yourself to become powerful:) well farewell to all.

By: Neil

Neil — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 22:06:07 +0000

And to the children:

I’m still in the closet, I emphasize greatly! My advice, as young and inexperienced as I am is the following:

1.Make sure you are gay before you tell anyone.

2.Figure out if your gay or bisexual, knowing is important!

3.If you are gay, don’t live your life pretenting to be straight, unless you want to live bitterly and unhappily.

4.You CAN’T do this on your own! Telling some your friends you are gay, gives you hope! But tell only those you know will always love you!

5.get over rejection, most gays only like a certain sort of guy.

6.Meet people online, u are NOT alone! But refrain from meeting someone older than yourself, and realise that it is dangerous, so do NNOT give out any crucial details!

7.Stick to more or less your age! Older guys will NOT lovingly guide you through the gay world, its best to meet someone who understands your current problems.

8.Sex does not mean love!

9.Because you’ve felt unloved for so long, don’t fall for any boy.

10.You will find someone, don’t worry, I’m looking too!

By: Neil

Neil — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 21:49:23 +0000

I am a 15 year old, south african homosexual.

I think the best thing a parent can do is accept their children (obviously) but also I think you should not discuss the topic with your child, they will talk to you when they are ready.

A parent also must realise that children are not necessarily born gay, or born anything, but if you are gay, it is pshycological and is probably because of how the child was raised, here parents make another mistake.. Where did we go wrong, the last thing your child wants to hear is how its your fault, do not let them feel that being gay is wrong or something to be ashamed of. Another thing I think parents should know is:

For most gay kids, the attraction starts fairly young, but we lie to ourselves and beat ourselves up pretty bad, so when we come out of the closet, it means we finally accepted ourselves, so don’t think your child is merely bi-curious, because otherwise you would not have known.

Lastly,
Young gay boys are terrified! They often meet people online or view pornography, which I could almost say I believe is a necessary experience, for then we feel les alone! If you ever stumble upon these, read through it, ensure your child’s safety, but do NOT confront them even if erotic flirting is involved.

A last thing being gay does not mean being feminine, and even if your child is femmy, remember:

A parents ONLY jobs are to love/accept their child, ensure their chikdsafety and guide them. You don’t choose ro be gay, you only choose not to live your life alone!

By: Kess

Kess — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:07:06 +0000

Hi i’m 16, i came out when i was 14. My parents were very supportive in a negative sort of way by trying to run my life thinking they were being helping. Insisting i join a gay youth club, speaking to my teachers about bullying even though i was fortunate enough never to have experience that. They opened my life for all to see and that is not what i wanted. The only reason i told them was because they kept asking about girls and it was getting me down lying to them all the time. It is really easy if your straight, you can check out any girl who walks past and nobody says a word. Me, i have to watch who and were i look if i check out another boy. I would love to check out every boy my age who walks past but that is not the case. Now my parents have opened my world to everybody i can expect insults and assaults if some one even thinks i am looking at them. Plus the bullies have come out of the woodwork to do their best to put me down but i handled that side quite effectively and they know better then to get on my wrong side. My friends have been great though, that is one thing that i am really happy about. My parents love me but i did not come so that they can shout to the world that they have a gay son. I Just did not want to lie to them anymore. I wanted to go my own way, do my own things and learn as i went along. I did not want my parents talking to me about being gay but i did want to know that i could talk to them if the need arose. I wanted their support not for them to to treat me like a project and organise my life for me. I do however enjoy the youth club when i go and have even talked to kids younger then myself because i could see the fear and confusion in their faces. Everybody knowing i am gay makes me that little bit paranoid when i see some one looking at me. I do not know if they are checking me out or just looking and thinking what a faggot. I used to just smile before i came out and they would just turn their heads and carry on with whatever they were doing. Now if i smile at the wrong person you can hear the insults they mouth under their breathe if they do not approve. I cannot change my parents and would not want to (no matter how many times i wish they would just go away), i cannot change peoples oppinions of me, i just wish they would not express them to me so agressively. Most of all i cannot change who i am even though when i was younger all i wanted to do was crawl under a rock and die. I am stronger then i was 2 years before i came out. My parents have helped but i think they made my journey shorter rather then easier. I still want to crawl under a rock sometimes but not to die just to get away from them occassionally.

By: Josh

Josh — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 23:09:10 +0000

Hi I’m 14 and bi , I’m really confused can someone help me?

By: mark

mark — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 13:31:41 +0000

I simply reply why should I? I mean it really has no specific meaning in telling people you dont really know its like a straight guy saying Im straight! and I know it might sound homophobic but why try to risk all the bullying for telling ppl youre gay? Personally just tell the most import peple to your heart. peace and love to all my fellow gays, bi’s, and lesbians. email me if u wanna talk: silver.marvel@yahoo.com screw all u homophobes gay is freedom!!!

By: mark

mark — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 13:20:08 +0000

are nice! Even the guys seem to be more outgoing… Well anyways a lot of random people come up to me and ask me “are you gay?” i simply say no. Because matter of fact I am Bi did they ask me if I was Bi? Nope. I mean I try to see in me what makes them see me as gay? I dont walk girly, I dont talk girly, I dont dress girly, but i guess its wat I wear: I like to wear preppy clothes and nice stuff. But who doesnt like that stuff!?! well back to topic my one friend im out to asks why dont you tell everyone?

By: mark

mark — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 13:10:29 +0000

and they are hispanic so all the men in the family tend to be macho. Being Hispanic also changes things, your family expects you to be macho like I said… Not that im not macho in fact i got some nice arm muscles! At school many of my closest friends think im gay and they possibly know it because they always pay things like “you are such a girl slut” and with me occasionally responding “damn right!” So I live in Ontario, California but go to Upland High School. The area is a suburb and many of the ppl

By: mark

mark — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 13:00:16 +0000

I too am one of those people who were different i always liked girls but something just didnt click. Soon I found myself fantasizing and falling in love with peple. My mom and sisters and brother love me 2 death and i guess they suspect im gay because they always joke around with me… every now and then my mom says to me and my youngest sister(16) that if we were gay that if we would tell her, she always tends to look at me during those “conversations.” But my dads side of the family who is very religiou

By: brandon

brandon — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 01:53:08 +0000

im 15 and im gay. all i ever hear is bla bla bla about im a gay kid and my family shunned me and i constantly get teased and made fun of and so on but if thats the case then im sorry to say this blantently but stop being a big pussy (no offfense to girls). if someone is making fun of you kick thier ass or teach them a lesson. your still a human being and deserve respect. if all you do is walk around feeling sorry for yourself then hell to the yeah your gonna get made fun of but if you straight up tell the person thats making fun of you back the fuck up then chances are a)you will get picked on less b)you will get some friends who respect you and stand up for you. about your unaccepting parents thats probably easier to deal with than dealing with people who pick on you. if your parents ignore you because you told them your gay or if they r in denial then what you have to do is get in their face ( literaly) and tell them that if they dont stop playing their 3 year old bullshit games that they will lose you forever. you need to make them understand that you r who you r and you will not take shit from anyone not even your own parents. if they want to completely take you out of the family or disown you then force your way into thier lives and make them realize that they r horrible parents who dont deserve children. and finally if you have told your parents that your gay and now you feel that they r trying to invade your life ,they arent. they want to know more about you so they can understand you and help you and protect you because you may think that youre invincible but youre not. if your parents constantly adk you questions then answer them all and answer them truthfully just lay it all out on the table and let whatever is left take its course