A Gay Boys Advice To Parents
Hello,My name’s Daniel
I live in Bulgaria(Europe) with my mother,little brother and grandmother..My dad works in another town(thank god)…. My mum has a hard time because dad doesn’t send money and her job pays bad…and she doesn’t need more troubles with finding out….about me….anyways…she has enough problems with me and thats why i am concerned and have a “short fuse” with anybody and…in short i changed 4 schools in 1 season and my grades are very low…but you probably want a story…
well i cannot tell you a masterpiece i can just tell you how the view of the world is through the eyes a 15 years old,teenage homosexual boy…well i’ll just get to the point…it is very hard..because not many boys share his…interests…and he is feeling alone and isolated…even with his parents support he is alone…he cannot tell other people even if he wants it very much because most people doesn’t understand difference and will probably make fun of him and even sometimes it gets to violence…
any parent knowing of his son orientation should make his life be more comfortable…i mean…make him feel normal…not just saying “i understand you and etc.”…you should make him happy…maybe go out somewhere where he wants from a long time…or suggest camping with a neighbourhood family which has a son his age…he will be pleased trust me!
But no way,in no condition do not have a conversation with him about homosexual people..it will just upset him.It’s simple..homosexual people have more in touch with their emotional side…if you say “you are an idiot,i don’t know why i let you live here(or something from this sort)” he will be very upset although he doesn’t show it…he will probably lock up in his room and be devastated,sometimes even cry.
You see his interests until the age of 15 are simple…just to talk with another boy but to be most open…to tell his feelings and what are his desires and etc..when he reaches the age of 14-15 (puberty) of course he would want to have some physical contact with a person from the same sex…maybe a kiss or to touch his face,chest and some other body parts.of course of the age of 15-16 he will have some sexual desires but gay boys that age are too afraid to have intimate relations with another boy…on the ago of 16-17 he is more willing and can control his body and acts like a normal boy and you can hardly notice he is homosexual..on the age of 18 and above his only intimate wish is to have a night alone with a boy..what they will do is a secret(i’m not that old LOL)…
A homosexual boy accepts everything with ease,because he understants difference.mostly they feel miserable until they find their “buddy”.
Also you should look for their relationship with their brother/sister..just because they are gay doesn’t mean their relations should be TRASH…try to keep the warm 
..make family dinners or send them to both to do a “important job” or sent them to camping…their relations are very important because he is a child after all and he cannot share everything with elders…he needs someone his age that way he feels more…understood…well i have to go now training is calling..hope you read and reply…
Regards,Daniel
Bulgaria,Europe
PS:Sorry for the bad spelling and punctuation my formal language is Bulgarian…
May 15th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
I feel like I can relate to this. Ever since I was a little boy I like to play with make up and play with girls. All my friends in the orphanage were mostly girls. Some boys were mean to me. I had a really close girl friend, named Katya. When I got adopted, my parents suspected that I would probably be gay. I was too young to understand. In fifth grade through middle school I was picked because I was so weak and sensitive, and I wasn’t what they expected of me. To make the long story short, I started having crushes on guys my freshmen year of high school. I came out to my friends. They accepted me. That summer my mom found out I was gay. She kept asking me so many questions, and even harrassed me. I am a sophomore now, almost a junior. This year I wore lip gloss at school, to make me feel comfortable. I came home with nail polish on my fingers one day from school and my mom got angry. I know I am very flamboyant and feminine, but I can’t help it. My mom tells me what to do. She makes fun of me. She tells me to keep my hands down. It’s hard not to. She won’t accept me, neither will my dad. I cry a lot. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep. ” Mom, why won’t you just accept me?” Please help me.