Comments on: A Gay Boy From The Beginning http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning Help For Parents Of Gay Children Mon, 30 Aug 2010 19:08:02 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Daniel http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-3270 Daniel Sat, 25 Apr 2009 15:01:13 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-3270 i remmber me just like u so gay but its ok to be gay... i even dint tell my dad thet iam a gay and i dont have mom sens i was 4 i wish i can talk to some 1....here is my msn if some 1 can help me..:xdanix1@hotmail.com i remmber me just like u so gay but its ok to be gay…
i even dint tell my dad thet iam a gay and i dont have mom sens i was 4 i wish i can talk to some 1….here is my msn if some 1 can help me..:xdanix1@hotmail.com

]]> By: T.b.b http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-3256 T.b.b Thu, 23 Apr 2009 10:30:04 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-3256 Wooahhohoho worse then cancer to be gay? thats messed up Wooahhohoho worse then cancer to be gay? thats messed up

]]> By: lisa http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-2770 lisa Wed, 04 Mar 2009 05:22:08 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-2770 I am the mother of 2 wonderful beautiful boys. One is 19 and doing very well the other is 13 and I think he is gay. His father and I have always wondered. When he was small he always preferred girl toys etc.... and as he has gotten older all of his friends are girls and he is very sensitive. He has his own laptop and I have always been pretty liberal about giving my sons freedom to watch or listen to most things. I happened to pick up his laptop today and was shocked at all of the gay porn that came popping up on the screen. I changed his account and put parental controls on it. When he came home from school I told him I wanted to talk to him. I explained what I had seen and asked him to be honest with me. At first he tried to lie and then said yes he had looked at those things because a girl friend of his had told him about the sites and they thought they were funny. I told him that whatever consenting adults decided to do with their love lives was their business and I felt everyone no matter what their sexuality should be free to make their own choices without shame or confusion. I did tell him that I felt he was too young to looking at those types of sites and that was the only thing wrong with what he was looking at. The first words out of his mouth were "It's not like I'm gay or anything" I told him that it did not matter. That if he had feelings that he felt were different from most people it was OK. He is an individual and a wonderful boy. He would really not talk to me about it any further. He later went bowling with his brother and his brothers girlfriend and by mistake left his phone at home. I did not go looking for it but when I saw it I did look at his past text messages. There were a few to girls from school simply saying "I'm not gay anymore". And 1 other one from a girl at school asking him if he was gay because 13 people had told her he was saying it. I do not know If I should approach him again or not. I want him to know that I love him and support him no matter what. I do not care if he is gay other than I am concerned that he will go through more ridicule than most kids and that scares me. I am afraid that if I leave it alone and let him come back to me when he is ready that I am not supporting him and he will feel alone. I am also afraid that if I push him into telling me that it would hurt him and he would feel shame or that he had somehow dissapointed us - that would be so not true. But as I said he is such a sensitive kid and I am scared that any way I go will be wrong. I hear and read about so many kids that felt alone in these situations and end up doing something crazy like commiting suicide or running away. I just want him to feel safe and secure no matter what. Anyone out there that can give me advice would be appreciated. I am the mother of 2 wonderful beautiful boys. One is 19 and doing very well the other is 13 and I think he is gay. His father and I have always wondered. When he was small he always preferred girl toys etc…. and as he has gotten older all of his friends are girls and he is very sensitive. He has his own laptop and I have always been pretty liberal about giving my sons freedom to watch or listen to most things. I happened to pick up his laptop today and was shocked at all of the gay porn that came popping up on the screen. I changed his account and put parental controls on it. When he came home from school I told him I wanted to talk to him. I explained what I had seen and asked him to be honest with me. At first he tried to lie and then said yes he had looked at those things because a girl friend of his had told him about the sites and they thought they were funny. I told him that whatever consenting adults decided to do with their love lives was their business and I felt everyone no matter what their sexuality should be free to make their own choices without shame or confusion. I did tell him that I felt he was too young to looking at those types of sites and that was the only thing wrong with what he was looking at. The first words out of his mouth were “It’s not like I’m gay or anything” I told him that it did not matter. That if he had feelings that he felt were different from most people it was OK. He is an individual and a wonderful boy. He would really not talk to me about it any further. He later went bowling with his brother and his brothers girlfriend and by mistake left his phone at home. I did not go looking for it but when I saw it I did look at his past text messages. There were a few to girls from school simply saying “I’m not gay anymore”. And 1 other one from a girl at school asking him if he was gay because 13 people had told her he was saying it. I do not know If I should approach him again or not. I want him to know that I love him and support him no matter what. I do not care if he is gay other than I am concerned that he will go through more ridicule than most kids and that scares me. I am afraid that if I leave it alone and let him come back to me when he is ready that I am not supporting him and he will feel alone. I am also afraid that if I push him into telling me that it would hurt him and he would feel shame or that he had somehow dissapointed us – that would be so not true. But as I said he is such a sensitive kid and I am scared that any way I go will be wrong. I hear and read about so many kids that felt alone in these situations and end up doing something crazy like commiting suicide or running away. I just want him to feel safe and secure no matter what. Anyone out there that can give me advice would be appreciated.

]]> By: UK mum http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-2475 UK mum Mon, 12 Jan 2009 19:39:06 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-2475 My son is 8 and is already "experimenting" with little boy sex games. Since he was about 3months old I just had a gut feeling that he was gay. I don't know what it was, i just knew. He's come out to me and his dad about a year ago and it really didn't phase us at all, I'm happy for him that he's confident enough to let us know where he's at with himself and his feelings. However, now he's become all of a sudden a great deal more of a young man than a little boy and has told me that he's been getting naked with a few friends in his bedroom and showing each other their bits and playing with them. Again fine with me.....what is worrying me that since this has been happening his "friends" then the day later or very soon afterwards are nasty to him at school and are apparently embarrassed by what they've been doing. My poor boy is so young he doesn't understand why they seem to be his friend one day and happy to get close and then reject him the next day. I'm worried for his feelings and how hard it's going to be for him to have to be more quiet to some people about what his sexuality is. If he was into girls then he would be ok to tell all his buddies what he'd been up to. But he's already aware that he has to put up with prejudice. What can I do to support him and make sure he's a confident gay and out as he grows up? My son is 8 and is already “experimenting” with little boy sex games. Since he was about 3months old I just had a gut feeling that he was gay. I don’t know what it was, i just knew. He’s come out to me and his dad about a year ago and it really didn’t phase us at all, I’m happy for him that he’s confident enough to let us know where he’s at with himself and his feelings. However, now he’s become all of a sudden a great deal more of a young man than a little boy and has told me that he’s been getting naked with a few friends in his bedroom and showing each other their bits and playing with them. Again fine with me…..what is worrying me that since this has been happening his “friends” then the day later or very soon afterwards are nasty to him at school and are apparently embarrassed by what they’ve been doing. My poor boy is so young he doesn’t understand why they seem to be his friend one day and happy to get close and then reject him the next day. I’m worried for his feelings and how hard it’s going to be for him to have to be more quiet to some people about what his sexuality is. If he was into girls then he would be ok to tell all his buddies what he’d been up to. But he’s already aware that he has to put up with prejudice. What can I do to support him and make sure he’s a confident gay and out as he grows up?

]]> By: Gui http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-2437 Gui Sun, 04 Jan 2009 03:32:25 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-2437 Man, just listen... I came out to my mom and my dad at the right time: "when they got to the point". This is what everyone should do. Just try to keep things going until it's unbearable to their peeps (aka when they start asking themselves "why my son doesn't have a gf since he's already old enough, fit, handsome, rich, intelligent, has a car, etc?"). Well when I came out it was pretty hard for them LATER, but at the moment (it was while my mom was driving her car, my dad was at her side) it felt like if she already knew.. this is the fact. Nobody can be so naive to the point of NEVER THINKING ABOUT THAT, even if they say so. Now what you gotta do is: keep your life going, till you get your own freedom, that is when you start working and paying your bills. Then you will not have to take your parent's advices if you don't want to. Till then, you'll have to understand that you depend on them mainly financially. If you are successful and can meet someone you get along well, I am sure they will end up recognizing your choice of not living a frustration forever. I am dating a guy right now for almost one year. We are fine, his mother discovered about him - that was not exactly fine - and she hated his ex. Well, what else can I say? He's a nice intelligent cute guy, and something funny happened sometime ago when my mom still didn't knew about me -- she pointed out him on a picture in my album "hey, this guy here is so cute, what's his name again?". Somethings are meant to happen. Happiness is one of them, but that depends on you being strong enough to wait for it, to help it to happen. Acceptance is a choice, but respect is not. You DESERVE respect and love no matter if your peeps accept you or not. Eventhough my mom knows my BF and get along very well with him (he's really sweet) she hasn't seen us "together". So be careful. Sometimes even when people say it's ok to be gay doesn't mean they wanna see you doing your gay stuff. Got it? ;) best wishes, Gui Man, just listen…

I came out to my mom and my dad at the right time: “when they got to the point”. This is what everyone should do. Just try to keep things going until it’s unbearable to their peeps (aka when they start asking themselves “why my son doesn’t have a gf since he’s already old enough, fit, handsome, rich, intelligent, has a car, etc?”). Well when I came out it was pretty hard for them LATER, but at the moment (it was while my mom was driving her car, my dad was at her side) it felt like if she already knew.. this is the fact. Nobody can be so naive to the point of NEVER THINKING ABOUT THAT, even if they say so.

Now what you gotta do is: keep your life going, till you get your own freedom, that is when you start working and paying your bills. Then you will not have to take your parent’s advices if you don’t want to. Till then, you’ll have to understand that you depend on them mainly financially. If you are successful and can meet someone you get along well, I am sure they will end up recognizing your choice of not living a frustration forever.

I am dating a guy right now for almost one year. We are fine, his mother discovered about him – that was not exactly fine – and she hated his ex. Well, what else can I say? He’s a nice intelligent cute guy, and something funny happened sometime ago when my mom still didn’t knew about me — she pointed out him on a picture in my album “hey, this guy here is so cute, what’s his name again?”. Somethings are meant to happen. Happiness is one of them, but that depends on you being strong enough to wait for it, to help it to happen. Acceptance is a choice, but respect is not. You DESERVE respect and love no matter if your peeps accept you or not.

Eventhough my mom knows my BF and get along very well with him (he’s really sweet) she hasn’t seen us “together”. So be careful. Sometimes even when people say it’s ok to be gay doesn’t mean they wanna see you doing your gay stuff.

Got it? ;)

best wishes,

Gui

]]> By: J.B. http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-2232 J.B. Wed, 03 Dec 2008 20:46:40 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-2232 Hi It is so sad to see how mixed up humanity is.! You have explained you fear and terror so well. Why is the religious not more compromising since the baptism of fire, when they got recognition? Sex can be enjoyable and relaxing with mental harmony in moderation, Then if the Creator of all Creatures did create us all.Why then did he construct us with our sex organ orifice using the same deliverence as the waste of our food and drink from our bodies. Could he not have given us a special finger or an attachment to our tongue to do the requirements for pro-creation ; love relaxation and enjoyment ?. Whilst sex is enjoyable and relaxing and health giving in moderation, it is not a nice thought when one considers their ordinary bodily functions associated therewith; therefore it is sad for all creatures and we should think more and learn to enjoy our lives more and keeping free from injury and disease, to ourselves and all others who associate with us generally. bye now from an older person Hi

It is so sad to see how mixed up humanity is.!

You have explained you fear and terror so well.

Why is the religious not more compromising since the baptism of fire, when they got recognition?

Sex can be enjoyable and relaxing with mental harmony in moderation,

Then if the Creator of all Creatures did create us all.Why then did he construct us with our sex organ orifice using the same deliverence as the waste of our food and drink from our bodies. Could he not have given us a special finger or an attachment to our tongue to do the requirements for pro-creation ; love relaxation and enjoyment ?.

Whilst sex is enjoyable and relaxing and health giving in moderation, it is not a nice thought when one considers their ordinary bodily functions associated therewith; therefore it is sad for all creatures and we should think more and learn to enjoy our lives more and keeping free from injury and disease, to ourselves and all others who associate with us generally. bye now from an older person

]]> By: Bob Super http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-950 Bob Super Fri, 15 Aug 2008 13:01:12 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-950 I am 20, in china. It's lucky for you guys to find support in you life, and I do hope you will cherish it, Well I have too much to say, but the examing is coming and I'll start to do my work then. Sorry for my awkward Enligsh. Wish all of you find the balance in you life！ I am 20, in china.
It’s lucky for you guys to find support in you life, and I do hope you will cherish it, Well I have too much to say, but the examing is coming and I’ll start to do my work then. Sorry for my awkward Enligsh.
Wish all of you find the balance in you life！

]]> By: Haroon http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-810 Haroon Thu, 10 Jul 2008 03:45:11 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-810 hi! I'm 16 year old male... i know now for nearly four years that I'm unluckily gay, but most of all i have accepted myself as one. Pretending or denying the truth about myself would obviously won't help so my advice to all such people is that be who you are and live your life in the best possible way:) hi!
I’m 16 year old male… i know now for nearly four years that I’m unluckily gay, but most of all i have accepted myself as one. Pretending or denying the truth about myself would obviously won’t help so my advice to all such people is that be who you are and live your life in the best possible way:)

]]> By: Violet http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-772 Violet Sun, 29 Jun 2008 17:17:11 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-772 Hi. Really great that you wrote all this out. I'm 16 and lesbian, and in the process of coming out. I'm trying to find the best way to approach my parents. Luckily they're not overly religious or anything, but I can't be sure of how they'll react. I feel bad for you, because of the way your parents took it and you being teased. How did your sister react? Hi. Really great that you wrote all this out. I’m 16 and lesbian, and in the process of coming out. I’m trying to find the best way to approach my parents. Luckily they’re not overly religious or anything, but I can’t be sure of how they’ll react.
I feel bad for you, because of the way your parents took it and you being teased.
How did your sister react?

]]> By: Joseph McRory http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning/comment-page-1#comment-660 Joseph McRory Fri, 16 May 2008 11:53:51 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/a-gay-boy-from-the-beginning#comment-660 Please I need help. My parents don't accept me. They make fun of me and tell me what to do. I have been flamboyant ever since, I was a little boy. I wore lip gloss and nail polish. I've been put down. I really can relate to this. Sometimes I even cry myself to sleep. There are kids at my high school that make fun of me. I have always been so insecure. But I know, deep in my heart I'm gay and I'm proud. Please help me. Please I need help. My parents don’t accept me. They make fun of me and tell me what to do. I have been flamboyant ever since, I was a little boy. I wore lip gloss and nail polish. I’ve been put down. I really can relate to this. Sometimes I even cry myself to sleep. There are kids at my high school that make fun of me. I have always been so insecure. But I know, deep in my heart I’m gay and I’m proud. Please help me.

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