http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/3 Help For Parents Of Gay Children Mon, 30 Aug 2010 19:08:02 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/3/comment-page-1#comment-3404 Trish Sun, 17 May 2009 21:10:20 +0000 http://gayfamilysupport.com/blog/supporting-families-who-have-gay-loved-ones#comment-3404 I am pleased to have found this site. I am a mom of 3 boys, twins Mark and Carl who are 21 and Eric who is 17. Mark and Carl are very different from one another, one is gay and one is straight so you can imagine the hurdles on that. Since the age of 5yrs I knew in my heart my son was gay. Sadly school was hard on him especially middle years. It is hard enough with all the indifferences we have growing up and then to be even more different makes it worse. My son suffered with ridicule and teasing to the point where I had to make a stand..I had a meeting with the school board and principle and parents and explained as an adult we don't have to take sexual harassment so why should my son? I was ready to start pressing charges because my son has every much that right as I do...thank goodness they stepped in and it decreased. I came to my son at age 17 and asked are you gay? He replied yes and I could see the relief that was lifted off of him. I explained I had always known and wanted to wait til he was ready to tell me...his biggest concern was our family members of course and I said thats easy whomever cannot accept will not be a part of our lives. I know this sounds very cut and dry but my children our my world and thats final. The reason I came to this site was from the advice from a lovely young lady my husband and I met at the gay club recently and yes both my husband and I go to the gay bar with our son and his boyfriend on a regular basis and what a blast we have. She said we can be a voice to other parents and children in this situation. It saddens me to see how many of my son's friends who come to us wishing both or even one parent would accept them and their choices the way we do. I truly wish folks would just open their eyes and see what wonderful things our children have to offer no matter what their preference is. I am pleased to have found this site. I am a mom of 3 boys, twins Mark and Carl who are 21 and Eric who is 17. Mark and Carl are very different from one another, one is gay and one is straight so you can imagine the hurdles on that. Since the age of 5yrs I knew in my heart my son was gay. Sadly school was hard on him especially middle years. It is hard enough with all the indifferences we have growing up and then to be even more different makes it worse. My son suffered with ridicule and teasing to the point where I had to make a stand..I had a meeting with the school board and principle and parents and explained as an adult we don’t have to take sexual harassment so why should my son? I was ready to start pressing charges because my son has every much that right as I do…thank goodness they stepped in and it decreased. I came to my son at age 17 and asked are you gay? He replied yes and I could see the relief that was lifted off of him. I explained I had always known and wanted to wait til he was ready to tell me…his biggest concern was our family members of course and I said thats easy whomever cannot accept will not be a part of our lives. I know this sounds very cut and dry but my children our my world and thats final. The reason I came to this site was from the advice from a lovely young lady my husband and I met at the gay club recently and yes both my husband and I go to the gay bar with our son and his boyfriend on a regular basis and what a blast we have. She said we can be a voice to other parents and children in this situation. It saddens me to see how many of my son’s friends who come to us wishing both or even one parent would accept them and their choices the way we do. I truly wish folks would just open their eyes and see what wonderful things our children have to offer no matter what their preference is.

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