I can bearly type this because my heart is broken.  My daughter is 17 years old and for the last year has been in a really great (so I thought) relationship with a boy.  The two of them were amazing, more like best friends then just a boyfriend and girlfriend. People often commented, they have never seen anyone look at anyone with such love and devotion than the way my daughter’s boyfriend looked at her. 

And I would say and she feels the same way about him.  I told my daughter that she was very lucky to have found someone and have such an awesome relationship because it is so rare.  I on the other hand told both of them that they were so young they should enjoy time with friends and do other things rather than constantly being together.
 
Just last month my daughter would want to be with her boyfriend every day and sometimes I would tell her she had to stay in and be with her family, do some studying, or just clean her room.  Her boyfriend would start to snap at her because he wanted to see her.  One week later she said she was breaking up with her boyfriend because she couldn’t handle him getting mad at her. 

I told her that they have been so close that she should just talk it through with him because I knew she would miss him after all they had been through.  I also knew that he would be devastated, because he loved her so much (they would both often say they were going to get married some day). 
 
But she was determined and broke up with her boyfriend.  He called me and I told him that she was upset because he yelled and he said if he knew she would leave he would change.  Just before all this occurred my daughter had me drive a friend home from school one day.  When this friend got out of the car I said “What did you say that boy’s name was”.  My daughter laughted and said that is a girl. 

Right after that I got a message from my daughter’s boyfriend saying she was dating that girl.  I didn’t believe it, how could she go from such an intense loving relationship with a boy and suddenly want to be with this girl.  But my daughter confirmed that she really liked this girl.  It has been about two weeks now and I can’t say how sick this has made me.  I, like other letters I read, feel physically ill and can’t accept it. 

Even though I was OK with my daughter breaking up with her boyfriend, as I said “you both are so young to be so serious”, I find myself trying to get her to go back with him.  She says there is no way she will go back because even though I saw the good side, he had a very negative side that she couldn’t handle, his yelling.  My husband is not happy with my daughter’s choice of sexual orientation but he seems to accept it as that’s who she is.  He is not a support for me because he just says, “You need help”. 
 
I realize I made a mistake in becoming too close to my daughter’s boyfriend.  He was always at our house and I talked to him a lot.  It is so ridiculous of me because I find myself checking out my daughter’s my space page and that of her boyfriend.  It makes me angry to see this girl has replaced my daughter’s boyfriend and in looking at my her boyfriends page I feel so sad because it seems girls have come out of the woodwork and are sending him flirtations notes. 

I feel sad for him because he has been distraught over my daughters decision but it tears me up inside to see him moving on and talking to other girls.  All of this is just because I don’t want my daughter to be gay and in someway don’t think she could possibly  be gay after the relationship she just ended.  She started out saying she thought she was bi but now has moved to saying she is gay. 
 
I think when people are so desperate like me they can do things they don’t normally do.  In my case, it is trying to convince my daughter to get back with her boyfriend and checking their my space.  I don’t want to act this way and I don’t want to feel this way. I read that I will feel better with time but I feel so sick right now.