I am the mother of a gay son who recently turned forty years old.
I’ve known for more than 20 years that my son is gay and have worked to be honest and open with anyone who knows my family.  Like many families, there are those members who are bigoted or just plain refusing to accept someone different than they are.

In an effort to help people understand that gay people are more like the rest of us than they realize, I’ve written a novel entitled Hallowed Illusions.  It’s a story of a young man who, while sick, has a series of dreams about a beautiful woman.  His grandfather, a retired fundamentalist minister, is ecstatic and enthusiastic. It’s likely a sign from God that young Phillip should give up his sinning ways and settle down with a wife.

Problems arise when Phillip discovers the woman in his dreams died a mysterious death sixty years before and that she knew Pastor and grandmother Abby very well.

I’ve worked hard to give Phillip characteristics that are true to most men in general and, for the most part, to give him a loving family. The Las Vegas, NV PFLAG chapter notified its members of the book’s release and my book signing, which was held in late January 2007.  If you would be willing to let your members know that there is a book out there that identifies gay and lesbian people in a warm light, I would appreciate it. 

I may be an optimist, but I feel that the more people who realize gay and lesbian people are no different than anyone else, the sooner the rights of gay and lesbian people will be protected. I’ve read the mission, vision, and strategic goals of PFLAG and feel that my book will contribute to those things.

Because I think it is so very important for all people to understand that people in same sex relationships deserve all the rights that heterosexuals have, I have placed a link to PFLAG on my web site.  I want to mention, too, that my author email address (DonnaMQuick@hotmail) is on my book cover for anyone who would like to correspond through that avenue.

Thank you so much for your consideration in getting out the word about Hallowed Illusions.

Sincerely,

Donna M. Quick
enjoy my website at www.DonnaMQuick.com

Hi Debbie,
My name is Denise and I just found out that my 22 year old daughter (Cyndee) is a lesbian. I flat out asked her to get the awkwardness over and done with. In my heart I know I have always known. My daughter is a wonderful woman. She is going to college on a soccer scholarship. She  graduates next year with 2 bachelor degrees. She has always been a honest wonderful person. I have always been so proud of her. I will always be proud of her for being true to herself and happiness.

Her partner (Molly) is also a wonderful person. I really am looking forward to having her in our life. I told my daughter that if her brother brought her home I would say “excellent choice” so why wouldn’t I say that because she brought her home. I am so looking forward to sharing this part of my daughters life.  I am so happy that she has found someone that she can share her life with and be happy.
 
I have always been a very open minded person and have all kinds of friends. I enjoy colorful,  independent, and true to their self people.
There is not a bone in my body that is upset about her choice.
In fact two weeks ago when she and Molly were over for a visit and I walked them out to say goodbye. I walked back in the house and said “what a nice looking couple” and I shook my head and said “did you really just say that”?

That’s when it hit me and I laughed out loud. Then I said should I worry about saving my wedding dress? When I told my daughter these thoughts that went through my mind we laughed together and she told me not to rule the dress out. I told her she’s right if she don’t wear it maybe Molly will. All that matters to me is her happiness.
My question is, Is it normal to be this happy? LOL!

My girl friend Debi, who is also a lesbian said I was a great mom, stop thinking and enjoy my daughter life.
There are other family members that will not be happy.
The protective mother in me wants to protect her & Molly.
How do I handle these situations?
I can have a sharp tongue , but I would like to handle it so everyone involved does not feel uncomfortable.

I look forward to hearing from you and let me say thank you now for your answers.

Thanks Again,
Denise Millang