Gay Family Support Blog

Dear everyone, who is is the same boat. My son Adam who is 26 years of age, a delightful,friendly and very “adult” man, came to me 2 weeks before Fathers Day, and told me he was Gay.I was elated, for being a Mother, you just know. From the age of 16 years I knew, but new it up to him to tell me. Unfortunately, my marriage broke up because of a handicapped son Ben who would have been 28 this year, he died when he was 10. I have another son, 22 Luke, is just so “into”girls. I do not know how many he has had since he was 16.

Anyway, when Adam told me I was just so glad for he was “set free” and to live life, with me hoping to meet his friends. I never met his friends, and all was very suspicious with his “love life” so I was relieved when he told me. Adam was scare to go to his father, but I told him that it was best he found out from Adam and no one else.

His father took it, however, Adam is in hospitality, and doing very well, however, he was leaving Sydney to go to the Brisbane Hilton. He was there for three weeks, after leaving his friends and “partner” in Sydney. He was feeling lonely and lost and missing his “partner’ and so I go a phone call last Thursday from Adam saying that he was in Sydney, saying that Alex had been “drugged raped” I just could not get my head around all of this for I am not into drugs, Adam isn’t and I just asked how did it happen. Apparently the gay bars are full of this and I just told him to be careful, and make sure Alex was tested.

Alex was just so pleased to see Adam at the airport, and it was just so beautiful, that these “gay guys” really do feel that emotion. I was pleased and was going to fly to Sydney to see what I could do. I was then told there was nothing and it was best for them to work it out  His father is absolutely balistic, that Adam now wants to go back to Sydney, and is probably wanting to disinherit dear Adam.

I am at logger heads, as who to turn to for I am not ophay with type of new “sexual explotations” and it is all so new in all directions. I told Adam not to tell his father about the “drug rape” as he would be down in a flash and just doing what he does best and just takes over, rants and raves and just does not see a clear picture. Anyway this is my story, and if any of the readers of this can help me that would be great Cheers Lindy Garfield

Hello, my name is Nicole and I am happy to find your website.

I was recently  told by my daughter that she was gay.  I was shocked at first but then when I gave it a lot of thought, it made sense. My husband and I love and support her no matter what and want to be as helpful as possible but sometimes a person is not sure what exactly is the best way to help. She is struggling with it in her personal life cause most of her contacts are straight.

I suggested that she find a support group with kids her age (20) who are going through the same thing. We do not live in a big city but live an hour away from one.  She said that since she came out, when she’s around her peers, she feels like the elephant in  the room.  I know what she means but don’t know exactly how to advise her about dealing with it. I have gay friends (although much older) and was raised around gay people who were friends of my mom’s. Even with that, I still feel a little lost.

I would love an instruction manual to help me, ha ha, so if you can recommend one, I would appreciate it. Also, any advise from your more experienced moms would be great! We just want her to be happy. Thank you.

Hello and I wanted to ask a few questions. My daughter is gay has  married her  life partner who has given birth to a baby boy now going on age 2 ..My daughter  is very educated and has moved to the west coast to live and wants nothing to do with me??? Is it normal or let me put it another  way do gay adult children form new family bonds with other gays and shut out  family members for whatever reason????

I never had a problem with her being gay but feel she feels uncomfortable with me  I think. She told me she never wanted to talk about her childhood or bring up any memories. It is like she has erased herself and created another person. She has changed her name  and  her telephone number and will not answer my e-mails and I have pleaded for closure and giving me some  idea.

I asked her point blank what the problem and  I said your treating me as if I were a toxic parent. She said I was and made the call brief  thus in bad judgement  I called her a spoiled brat and went into the stunned  anger of saying all I have done for her….Looking back I see that was a hudge mistake. I have two older  sons who are loving people and we all get  the fact you must love and understand people for who they are and how they wish  to live their life…This is very painful and it seems so simple to me one talks it out but I will not be given that chance… I never drank, smoked pot, took drugs  but did make the mistake of letting her do what she wanted but she was a hard worker and always took care of her business and she was a great kid.

In her childhood age 9  I was a single parent with no child support and worked hard and gave her what I thought was a good life… I tried taking her to church  and  we both went for help on my divorce issues….  She was always so good and never gave me  few problems….. My daughter-in-law  ( her life partner ) has a MED, Ma and working on a PHD.in psychology and I think she does not care for me …Several years ago when I visited I stayed in a motel and no one offered to even fix a small meal.

We took a drive to the coast and my daughter wore  a head set and seemed not intredsted in talking.  I have not been back or seen the baby.  I have money, gifts and made the baby a homemade quilt.  It has been a very difficult and confussing  journey and I was not a parent who cared if she was gay?????  I am 62 and hope before I die she will forgive me for whatever i did and call. I would love to understand  so if this is something that happens often please let me know. If  I can help another person  please let me know…

hello my name is chase i was lookin through different sites on being gay when i came across yours i ready it and decided that i would send you an email. i recently just came to accept that i was bisexual i go for both guys and girls.. i was recenly outed on it by 2 of my friends who went through my phone and saw a text message i had sent to another guy and then took it and told everyone i am from a small town so the word didn;t take to long to get around my mom found out but never saud anything to me until my brother found out and told her about it my brother is cool with it says that he loves me no matter what i choose and that i will always have his support and always be his little brother.. my mom later asked me about it so i told her she went crazy tried to get me medical help and everything else that you can imagin my dad has no clue and don;t think that i could ever tell him he is a southern preacher who stands strong in what he believes. me and my mother have always had a very close relationship and very open until now i am now livin 2 lives and keepin myself as fao away as i can get from her to that she will not ask questions that way i do not have to lie to her about anything. i am at the end of my rope and don;t know what else to do and can’t keep livin like this.. i like to think of myself as a good person i go to school full time and work about 60 hours a week in the ER at the second largest hospital in GA and i am only 20 but for some reason none of that matters to my family if i am not “straight” i just don;t know what else to do or turn someone please help me. i am so tired of bein told that this was a choice that i made to be this way.